Nobody Knows You’re Faking It. That’s the Point.
I live with anxiety and depression. Some mornings I need four TED talks just to get out of bed. Someone this week told me I should inspire others. They are not wrong. But they do not know the whole story.
We Are Not Each Other’s Enemy. But We Act Like It.
On colorism, culturalism, cultural theft, and why the global African diaspora keeps choosing division over the unity that would actually change things.
Walter Is My Best Friend. He Earned It.
Walter has seen me crawl out of some dark places. That is why he gets homemade snacks, dehydrated liver, and blackberries I personally despise. Loyalty is everything. And in this house, it gets rewarded.
Faking The Soft Life Till It Actually Gets Here
The soft life is not my reality. Not yet. But I am faking it enthusiastically, without apology, till the wheels fall off. Joy in the midst of trials is a blessing — and the charcuterie board is not going to eat itself.
Stop Waiting to Feel Ready. That Feeling Is Not Coming.
I knew before I walked down the aisle. I stayed long after I knew it was a mistake. I kept waiting to feel ready to leave. That feeling never came. Here is what I learned about fear, procrastination, and moving anyway.
Gen X Raised Themselves. Nobody’s Apologizing for That and We Need to Talk About It.
When you got home from school you already knew to defrost the chicken, clean the house, and have it done before they walked through the door. No instructions. No participation trophies. That was Gen X. And we need to talk about what it made us.
The Peace You Want Might Cost You First
Peace is not free. The real kind will cost you relationships, old versions of yourself, and every person who preferred you anxious. And you might need a lil’ pill to get there. No apologies.
When Everything Feels Like Too Much, Go Back To The Basics
When everything feels impossible, the answer is almost never more striving. It is almost always smaller, older, and more physical than anything you have been trying. Your ancestors already knew what your nervous system needs.
What We Watch Tells You Everything About What We Need. Tubi Knows. And So Do I.
What we watch is a mirror. When it reflects something true, something in us exhales. Tubi stopped making me wait.
I Should Have Listened To My Uncle
My boss’s boss looked me in the eye and told me I was too valuable to move somewhere else. He meant it as a compliment. It was not.