Real talk. Real life. No apologies.
I’m Shirl — writer, strategist, and a Black woman who says what she means.
I'm Shirl.
I’ve spent 30 years in boardrooms and community spaces watching people dance around the truth. Say It Lady is what happens when I stop doing that.
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Your Boss Needs You More Than You Need Them. Act Accordingly.
She has more experience in her pinky than her boss has in his entire body. She is not bitter. She is not plotting. She is just sitting in the meeting, face completely neutral, watching someone make a decision she would have never made in this life or the next.
Walter Is My Best Friend. He Earned It.
Walter has seen me crawl out of some dark places. That is why he gets homemade snacks, dehydrated liver, and blackberries I personally despise. Loyalty is everything. And in this house, it gets rewarded.
Faking The Soft Life Till It Actually Gets Here
The soft life is not my reality. Not yet. But I am faking it enthusiastically, without apology, till the wheels fall off. Joy in the midst of trials is a blessing — and the charcuterie board is not going to eat itself.